Before I decided that writing was what I felt called to do, I was terrified. Terrified that I had nothing to contribute and that I would end up in a meaningless job that didn’t play on my strengths, talents or passions. Many people are forced to do this, might I add, to support their families, so I recognize that this is a privilege that I could even stop to consider what I wanted. But before I found a therapist who specialized in CBT and actually spoke back to me (instead of nodding her head empathetically or saying “yes, I see, that is a hard dilemma…” when I asked for advice), I was told countless times to “follow my heart”, but that’s a cliché phrase that seems a little outdated and tone deaf in today’s climate. Here’s why I think so.
Read MoreThere seems to be a subconscious, ever-present tension existing within humans to satiate their contradictory needs of acceptance and self-actualization. Both do not always lend themselves to one another, which poses the question: which is more important and is the desire to equally satisfy both a recipe for madness? Particularly with women but overall a societal issue, this phenomenon is seen especially in consumerism — a perfume, for example, is marketed for its ability to enrapture the senses of passerby’s and solidify you as a unique, mysterious enigma, yet this tactic is what draws so many in and eventually, it becomes a repetitive, monotonous scent, the very thing it originally claimed not to be. It doesn’t take a psychological scholar to point out that we have a deep-seeded need for connection, understanding and belonging, and when we don’t receive it, it can lead to a whole slew of undesirable feelings of insecurity & isolation.
Read MoreOne fateful summer day in 2014, my mom bought me the first three seasons of Pretty Little Liars on DVD and my life consequently changed. I watched them play detective in their statement necklaces and 6-inch heals, and execute it flawlessly. The show showcased true female friendship with unconditional love, support and empowerment (most of the time) and every Liar had a different personality that was highlighted & embraced beautifully. Spencer was the brains, serving J.Crew chic and witty remarks every episode, Hanna was the humorous fashion icon with impulse issues and a heart of gold, Aria was the sensitive, artsy one with eclectic outfits and an uncanny ability to keep a secret, and Emily was the sporty, fair-minded one with an unyielding moral compass and a sweet naivety. The trauma of being stalked & obsessed over affected all of their psyches and personalities over the seasons in different, interesting ways. Should I have been watching such a plot that young? Um, debatable — but the intrigue, freedom, friendship and fashion had me wishing I could fast forward to sixteen. Little did i know, with the direction the 2010’s (and technology) were heading in, a life like one of the Liars was not awaiting me — or any of us.
Read MoreParasocial relationships and the widespread media coverage of celebrities (that is accessible with the click of a button) are two things that have cultivated a twisted sense of ownership between fans & their favorite people in the limelight. The devastation and uproar that occurs when a teen idol gets a girlfriend is a well-known phenomenon, and the misogyny and hatred that comes in tow has come to be expected. It is an age-old tale, and all it takes is one look at Taylor Swift & Harry Styles to know that even the most beloved are not exempt from the one, unwritten rule: don’t lock down a heartthrob.
Read MoreDespite his success with older conservatives and more traditional minds preoccupied with preserving older traditions rather than embracing modernity & inclusivity, Donald Trump still finds himself less favored amongst arguably the most loyal & action-driven group: Gen Z. With their domination of social media, they are one of the most important demographics to target — more and more established celebrities & even news anchors are employing younger interns to help them appeal to the younger generations. Issues like college debt forgiveness and abortion rights are perhaps the most prevalent to this group as well, since their futures rest upon these issues and the trajectory of their lives could forever change based on the direction these issues go in, in the future. According to Newsweek, they reported that as Civiqs (an online opinion polling and data analytics company) polled those 18-34 over the past two weeks to see who they favored (Trump or Harris), 57% favored Harris, while only 37% backed trump. Could Gen Z be the tipping point that installs our first female, women of color president in the oval office?
Read MoreHer content is reminiscent of a FaceTime call with your very best friend, whom you check in with from time to time with no awareness of the time between meetings as their authenticity and excitement to connect color every conversation in bright technicolor. Her most notable showcases of raw honesty are her journey of sharing her sexuality with her following and her well-documented experience with her mental health, along with the trials & tribulations that come with medication, depression and diagnoses.
Read MoreFonts, intros and thumbnail themes are all synonymous with the Golden Era of Youtube, as some call it, between the years of 2011-2015. Monetization had not yet peaked, collaborations were earnest and out of genuine friendship, and the gap between creators and viewers was bridged with honest content that resembled that of a FaceTime call with a longtime friend. This era died as the original creators went off to pursue other avenues of entrepreneurship, and in their place, celebrity-like untouchables were born, lacking the relatability and connection that their forefathers offered. However, a renaissance of the “best friend” influencer is upon us, with creators like Brittany Broski paving the way.
Read MoreDuring the height of the pandemic, teenage girls everywhere, like myself, were locked away in their rooms with the only portal for socialization being the cell phones in their hands. As we all know, especially the last generation to experience a slice of life without the boom of technology, the innately human experience of interacting face-to-face is an irreplaceable privilege (although introverts like myself might disagree to a certain degree) — especially when technology is already fundamentally changing the way we approach connecting with other. However, an upside to technology is that it offers the ability to transform your pool of possible friends into an ocean of like-minded acquaintances with the push of a button. The TikTok algorithm encourages this, leading compatible people with similar interests to find each other, and the Harry Potter side of TikTok was no exception. Exiled to the confines of their rooms, many teens and young adults re-discovered their love of the British franchise and were inspired to share it with the world. One thing led to another, and suddenly the idea of shifting was on the forefront of “For You” pages everywhere after one fateful person decided to share how she shifted her consciousness through meditation to explore the beloved world. Thus began the four-year long debate on whether or not it is all some inside joke, or perhaps something more progressive and New Age with actual proof to boot.
Read MoreIn an effort to fix an utterly demolished attention-span (thanks to the convenient doom-scrolling of TikTok), I decided to dive back in to my first love: YouTube. In this rediscovery, I found an interesting new genre I had yet to look into called video essays. Here, people explain polarizing or niche topics with a plethora of background research and plenty of illustrations to paint a forthright, all-encompassing narrative. This discovery came about a little over a year ago. Fast forward to present day — well, three days ago —, I came across a video by Mina Lee called “Why Is Everyone Dressing Like a Little Girl?” With a newfound affinity for bows and the “coquette” aesthetic myself, I immediately clicked on the video in hopes of discovering what this interest represents on a deeper level.
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